As a wife mother and full time Yogi, finding the balance and beauty in all things can be hard at times, but the balance is always there. You just have to look for it.
First and foremost, remember that whatever you focus on expands. So, if you walk the path of your life constantly feeling victimized and seeing blame in others to justify your problems, then that will be exactly what you find. On the other hand, if you seek happiness from your life and know that there is a lesson and a brighter point of view to every situation the reality of your perspective will be presented to you. That is not to say that certain events will not try your patience, especially if you have children but there is balance in that too. Without the trying times, you would not know how good that good is.
Balance is found in creating time for the things that are most important to you. Where we fall out of balance in life and as mothers is when we forget about the center of all balance in our lives and in the lives of our family, US! We are the key and that is why we have to be sure that we prioritize our time. There is a time for family, fun, and inner peace--and all of them are important.
The beauty of children is that they are a mirror of our own actions. When I find my children doing something that I don’t like, I ask myself what am I doing that is teaching this behavior? Can I use this "childish fit" as a learning opportunity to better myself as mother and a person? How beautiful is it for us both to have this experience to learn and grow together. When I became a mother, I felt more venerable, yet had more strength than ever before in my life.
Change is that way, terrifying and strengthening….
When I first became a mother, it was hard to get away from my baby, feeling that every moment was fleeting. But there could be no balance in this and it only led to quite moments of desperation.
Creating time for fun relinquishes me from the constant feeling of performing, being responsible not only for myself, but also for my job and family. I find a side of myself that I love and need, a free spirit without fear or obligation, simply living for the moment and having a pure embrace of life. This freedom allows me to return to my children with a lightness in my heart, and I feel that it makes me a better mother and wife.
Inner peace, this may mean different things to different people but for me it ties itself to my meditation practice. Once upon a time before children, I woke early in the morning and embraced my meditation practice; those days are gone now. But I do find that all parts of my life are better with a meditation practice so I flipped the switch. Now, I meditate at night after they have all gone to bed. It's not my ideal time for introspection, but it is better than nothing. It creates a healing inner peace that I can find in no other way.
There are two side to every coin, you cannot have one without the other. Make time to create the balance that you need for you!